Back to School: A Transition Period

By Jane Romeo, M.A. PCI Certified Parent Coach®

Back to School: It’s a Transition, Not Just a Date on the Calendar.

The school year is approaching, and suddenly everything feels like a race, earlier bedtimes, morning routines, school supplies, new teachers, and possibly a child who isn't exactly thrilled about going back to school.

Even children who genuinely get excited by school, can feel unsettled by a new school year. For some children, especially those who need more time to adjust, the transition can be harder than parents expect.

What’s really going on?

Going back to school means leaving behind a familiar summer routine and stepping into a new one. Children are expected to adjust their sleep and activities and sometimes their social routine.

Rather than expecting your child to simply “get back into the routine,” think about how you can help them transition into it.

Try This:

1. Start practicing the routine before the first day.
Gradually move bedtime and wake up time earlier. You can practice getting dressed, eating breakfast, and getting out the door without the pressure of an actual school morning.

2. Talk about what your child can expect.
If your child is nervous, ask what they're worried about. Talk about their teacher, classroom, or new routine. If possible, visit the school or practice the morning drop off.

3. Don't dismiss the nerves.
Instead of saying, “Don't worry, you'll be fine,” Try: “It's okay to feel nervous. New things can feel hard at first. Let's talk about what might help.”

Instead of saying…

“You're going to have so much fun!”
Try: “I wonder what you'll like about your new class.”

“Don't be nervous.”
Try: “It's okay to feel nervous about something new.”

Don't just prepare your child for the first day of school. Prepare your child for the transition.

Every child adjusts differently. Some jump right in, while others need more time, preparation, and reassurance. Understanding your child's temperament can help you know what they need to feel confident.

Jane Romeo is a Certified Parent Coach who helps parents better understand their children's behavior, helps support you with behavioral challenges and every day challenges with skills and strategies to help strengthen communication, and create more cooperation and calm at home. If you’d like to learn more about the services she provides, please visit www.janeromeoparentcoach.com